“Write yourself a love letter. A real one. Compliment yourself every day. Take yourself out. Have a love affair with yourself. Fall madly and deeply in love”.
I understand that at the moment that you’re not feeling yourself. That you’re finding some days harder than others. That some days that you don’t understand why you’re feeling the way you do. Why some days all you want to do is stay inside and not see or speak to anyone. And I want you to know that, that is OK. It’s OK to feel down some days. You’re going through a really tough time, it’s a huge change having a baby. It’s a huge change to your life. To your partner’s life. And I get why things are hard to adjust to.
I want you to see that everyone close to you understands, and you don’t have to pretend. You can be honest. Please don’t be afraid to say exactly how you’re feeling. They won’t judge you. No one will judge you, and you really need to realise that. You know that what you’re doing is right. You don’t need to worry what others think. Your little one is happy, so you know you’re doing something right. And when he’s happy, you’re happy and surely that’s the best feeling ever right?
I want you to know that you are doing great. Your little boy is amazing. He is healthy. He is happy. He is growing into such a little character to which you should take credit for. You and your partner have made an incredible little human and you must be so proud of yourself.
It is such a beautiful thing being a mum. I mean, look what you have done! You made that little man. You gave him a home and looked after him until he came into this world.
You are a beautiful person. You love your family and friends dearly and that is such an amazing thing. And they know this, and you must know that they all feel exactly the same thing about you to.
You’re going to have bad days, but remember that you have so many people around you that care for you and will do anything for you.
Please try and remember that you can do this. You can get through this hard time. You can be who you want to be.
But, please have faith in yourself. Have confidence in in yourself. Your little man loves you so much. Your partner loves you so much. I know that you know deep down how amazing you’ve been. How amazing you are.
You just need to believe it.